Counseling session to quit masturbation with my Client john – part 1
Today, I want to tell you story that happened last week. I think it might be your concern too.
It was around 8 PM when I was waiting for my last patient. I could hear the rain outside, and I was feeling pretty tired. Honestly, I was just ready to finish up so I could get home and drive in the rain.
I stood up to take a look at the rain, then the door knocked. A young man, around 20 years old, came in.
He said, “Hey, Dr. I’m John. I doubted to come, but I decided to enter finally.”
I could see that John was really nervous. It was clear he hesitated whether to come in or leave. That’s probably why it took him a little bit longer to walk in my room.
I said, “You did a great job coming in, John. Now, take a breath, calm down and have a seat. Tell me what’s going on that’s making you so anxious.”
John: “Dr., actually I’ve been masturbating since 15. Now I have lots of manhood problems. I feel like I have premature ejaculation. As soon as I start masturbating, I ejaculate soon.”
John was about to continue when the door knocked again. My receptionist came in and said, “Dr., as we had discussed earlier, I need to leave a bit early today, with your permission.”
I replied, “Of course, take care.” Then, I turned to John and said, “Okay, go ahead, continue.”
John swallowed and said, “Yes, as I was saying, I’ve really lost my confidence. I can’t communicate with girls. I’m afraid that if I start a relationship, it’ll end quickly because of my problem. I even wonder how I’ll get married in the future. Dr., my mind is really messed up. Please help me. Even when I dream, I ejaculate with the first penetration. This is really bothering me.”
So, I started to ask him the following questions:
Dr. Sam: “How often do you masturbate?”
John: “Pretty much every time I’m alone about five times in a week.”
Dr. Sam: “What do you use to masturbate? Mental images, porn, pictures, or something else?”
John: “Mostly with porn.”
Dr. Sam: “Do you exercise?”
John: “No, Dr., I don’t have time.”
Dr. Sam: “John, do you think all of this is because of your masturbation?”
John: “Yes, because in the beginning, everything was fine and natural when I did it.”
Dr. Sam: “What’s your personality like? Are you comfortable talking to girls, or do you have a fear of starting a conversation with them?”
John: “No, I’m really not comfortable. I think because of the problems I have, my mind stops me, and I always feel afraid.”
Dr. Sam: “Have you tried any medications or numbing agents?”
John: “Yes, I’ve used delay sprays a few times.”
Dr. Sam: “Have you had any sexual relationships?”
John: “Yes.”
Dr. Sam: “Were they emotional?”
John blushed a little, hesitated, and nervously said, “No.”
I said, “Okay, I understand!”
Then continued, “Listen carefully to what I’m going to tell you. You can get rid of masturbation, lack of focus, psychological pressure, and stress for good…”
Dr. Sam: “Look, John, in your mind, you’ve convinced yourself that you have a sexual problem, but this is completely mental, and it can be fixed. If it were a genetic issue, you would have had it from the start, not something that got worse over time. And I assure you, just as this problem developed, we’ll work together to overcome it.”
“First of all, you definitely need to start exercising – at least three times a week, and for at least 10 minutes workout every session. The key here is consistency, not intensity. The important thing is that you need to stay busy and avoid being alone.”
“You also shouldn’t feel bad about masturbation or have any guilt because it multiplies the negative impact. There’s a saying: if you do a bad thing with pleasure, the positive effects are greater 😊” (I tried to keep the conversation light and humorous so John could feel more relaxed).
“And here’s a little fact for you: If you find a good emotional partner and feel relaxed with them, your premature ejaculation will gradually improve, and your relationship will become much more stable and enjoyable. So don’t worry too much about that.”
“Also, to help you with your issues with the opposite sex, I highly recommend that you read the book The Bedroom King thoroughly and do all the practical exercises in it.”
“Along with reducing masturbation, you should also learn Kegel exercises and strengthen your core and abdominal muscles.”
“I have a training package that I offer to my in-person clients for free. It’s a complete guide to identifying the pelvic floor muscles, how to strengthen them, and improve endurance in sexual activity. Follow the exercises and instructions exactly as given in Increase Stamina in Bed package.”
“But remember this: the key to success is persistence. A traveler isn’t someone who goes fast and then slows down. The true traveler is someone who goes steadily and consistently.”
“I’ll take your details with the form I’ll send you on Telegram. Then, I’ll prepare a workout and nutrition plan for you. We’ll follow this plan, and when you come back next time, I’ll give you your program and we’ll review it together.”
“In the next article, I’ll share John’s form, his data, and his nutrition and workout plan with you. We’ll also carefully review John’s results and progress.”
Read next part here: Counseling session to quit masturbation with my Client john – part 2
